Warning. Prepare yourself for a bit of gross in the first paragraph. When I was a teenager, I had acne. I knew it was bad when Daddy suggested I go to the doctor for it. We didn't go to the doctor unless we were near death. I had a bad habit of "picking" my face. O.K., that's not a lovely thought, but there is a point here. I'm fifty-three years old, and to this day, I wear the tiny scars of my teenage "picking."
When I taught middle school my first year, I remember the shock I had at how many seventh and eighth graders "picked" on each other. They might start verbally sparring for fun, but inevitably, if it went on too long, it would end in a fight. There were some kids who gained power over others by constant picking. It's bullying and can lead to horrible consequences if not dealt with in a timely fashion. We see evidence of unbridled bullying on the news every night. It scars deeply.
Growing up, I lived next to a family that had two children, a boy and a girl. The girl was a year younger than me. I remember how the brother and sister "picked" on each other. Then, the mom would pick on the daughter and threaten her with a belt for picking on her little brother. It was a normal way of life for them. It was a daily, sometimes hourly, routine. I saw the daughter years later as a mother doing the same thing to her daughter, living with a belt sitting on the end table of her life. Picking scars spread, grow tissue, disfigure relationships, and sometimes give birth.
I'm trying to finish my state licensing paperwork for our shop, Midtown Cycles. It should have been completed weeks ago, but a regulatory consultant in Tallahassee keeps sending back my copy of an invoice for our business I had to have approved by the state. The first time he sent it back with a note saying that on my signature line I did not use 12 point font ( I used 10), so I had to redo it and send it back. I did, and he sent it back to me again. This time, he highlighted the word "signature" written in 12 point font, and he rejected my form because he indicated that it must not say signature. It must say "signed." Pick, pick, pick. I wonder who picks on him that he feels the need to pick. For that is the nature of picking;it begets picking, which, in turn, can create scarring. If unchecked,scarring can grow tissue that spreads, infiltrates, and binds.
So, I began to wonder why I was getting "picked on" believing that I "reap what I sow." As much as I don't want to admit it, I think I have some people in my life that I pick on. Just ask my husband. It's not blatant or nasty, but it's not necessary, just habit. It masks itself in defensiveness. Picking is contentious. It blocks the flow of freedom of the one picking and the "picked." In the words said often by an old neighbor I used to have, "It's not what God intended." God offers us the gift of faith, the antithesis of picking.
Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is,there is freedom. 2 Corinthians 3:17
Peace.
Love, Linda